Thursday, November 06, 2008


One of my favorite topics is Life, always have been always will be. Its the small things in life that push me to write something. Life with its ups and downs is the bumpy road that we all travel each day, in parallel to each other , making our own paths. Some of these paths bring us closer to one another and some of these paths take us away from each other to such large distance that a return seems impossible. I think about lies, and how they makes these come back very difficult.

In myself, I have always though of myself as someone who does not consider "people" (an euphemism for society) as a factor when talking decisions or when forming my opinion about something. I take pride in such freedom. For me people are not even on the list of merit/demerit that I have to consider when I have to make a choice. People can go to Hell for all I care. But I hear that it is not like that for normal people (  yeah i am not normal, i get that alot). The fear of people, in specific the phrase "Log kia kahain gaye... " [translated : "What will the people say/think .. "] is the one which makes me lose my temper every time. To hell with people and to hell with their opinions. I hate people and I hate their opinions. If you are one of the normal people, let me tell you, its okay to be not normal. Break free, live for what you are and not what people expect of you.

We give more weight to those opinions which are inline with our thinking model or our opinion. We don't even stop to think for a minute about the person who is saying it. If its something that we like but comes from a person that we do not like, we gladly quote it anywhere that we want. But if its something that is not in line with our thought process and is said by someone very near to us, we simple choose to ignore it. What is this about? Does nobody see the inbuilt hypocrisy in that or is it called "just being human"? If this is the latter, I refuse to be labeled a human any more. I refuse to be a being who joys himself in the sufferings of other and denies help to them when they need it most. I hate to be the part of the gossiping circle that is called "family" these days. If you are family, act like one. This is not a Star Plus Soap Opera for God's sake !

Many times I have been told and I know for a fact myself that I am asocial. I don't mix with people that easy. I have my reasons for that, and I don't think that I have the need to explain them to anyone at ALL. This in no way means that I am "proud". Ask anyone who knows me and they will tell you otherwise. Live and let, that's what I believe in.

Trying to make some sense of all these random thoughts? Well don't. At least I can't.


Uni said...

[People can go to Hell for all I care.]

--> It's not as easy as you just say it in a line.. I mean, its something called fitrah.. innate characteristics of a human being ..

Maybe you do refuse to be called human. But there are some characteristics peculiar to human beings which even you can't deny...

How about "killing another human being" ? Aren't we all totally agreed on that , keh its a repulsive act ?

I think caring about other (not all -- and certainly not if they trash your principles) human beings is something innate..

Author said...

I think you got me wrong there. When I say people, I mean society.

I care alot about the feeling and well being of my family (Read: mother,father,brother,sisters). The rest is people. It is natural to care for them since its a very loving relations.

But I must confess at the same time that I am not so "careless" yet. I wish one day I would achieve that status. To be free of what the society thinks (and not in terms of things that are established to be wrong, I dont want to do anything wrong). I want to do things for what they are, and not how they are perceived.

شکیب said...

So I am one of the 'people' now? Man you are very clever with timing things. Had you given this 'eye-opener' back then, I would have showed you what trash of a bin you are!

By the way, being one of the 'people', I am sort of a hard-hitting fact that you DO take us or our perceptions into account when making decisions. If not, then dude can you explain how did you end up in Munich? :P

Author said...

Why is everyone taking it the wrong way Shakeeb? You know how much friends mean to me and I really care for them as well, or don't you ? :S

This is what I actually wanted to say. There is a difference between taking someone's advice and not doing something cause what will the people think. If I had taken your advice and dropped the idea cause "Log kia soochain gay kay yeah khud koi faisla nahi kar sakta" tau that would have been wrong. I value your advice and your input.

The bit about timing I did not get :S

On a completely different note :

Shakeeb mian Poland main dil nahi lag raha jo logon ko khari khari sunana apna mashghala bana lia hai? :P

شکیب said...

Well, to be serious now, I did feel that the write-up doesn't portray your thinking well. Why? I don't know. I don't need to rely on blogposts to know your thoughts so I didn't try to figure what went wrong and where. But reading it did give a slight impression that you are some kind of an individualistic fellow with who-gives-a-damn attitude.

And about that 'different note', OK you have the advantage now. Rejoice, that is your time. But I will be sure to come back on the first opportunity :)

Anonymous said...

all that u say is right but that is living in a Utopian state! to survive in the world we have to keep up with ppl... but i dont disagree with wat u have said...n yeah u care alot abt ppl... i have felt at times that even if ppl literally walk over u u wont say a word! (an exaggeration but still)

sas said...

That's not because he CARES..That is because he is by nature oblivious to the environment and everybody around :P
In simpler words, he is Charsi :P:P:P

Author said...

Noone gets me :/

Anonymous said...

@sas nice joke but he CARES alot about people! as for the charsi part i can not say anything...

@author.. we get u:)

Raptor said...

i get you dabbay. here, have a cookie. *hugs dabba and give him a cookie* :D hahah

Raptor said...

gives* :P

lala pathan said...

haha...u guys need to get a room and get it over with.....haha